Sometimes the truth about what we truly desire in life can become warped and confused in the daily buzz of our lives. Oftentimes we dream up this picture of what our lives should look and feel like to those around us to make us feel valued and important. I am going to tell you a secret. Living a happy and successful life is deeply personal and really has nothing to do with anybody else.
Although it can be wonderful and important to have a dream for our lives it can also be dangerous and at times limiting. Now for me to explain I would like to do a little experiment with you. Firstly, we need to imagine how we would like our likes to look from our own perspective and more importantly how it would feel to ourselves, is it a busy or clam lifestyle? Keep this question in your mind as it will be the foundation of this experiment. This may seem selfish at first only considering yourself but even in emergencies on airplanes you are directed to put the oxygen bag over your own face before helping someone else. True happiness is your birthright. When you live the life of your true calling you will radiate abundance that will in turn benefit your family, friend groups and your place in society. To build your life you have to begin at the foundation. You.
We rarely seem to dig deeper to why it is we want the things we do other than the reason of why we give them such high monetary and sociological values. It is so important to understand the deep why to the reason you may want something. Why do you want to be in love or drive that shiny sports car. In many cases people who are crying for love are addicted to the idea of being loved “in love with love” rather than sharing genuine emotional intimacy with the person that is right in front of them. The idea of what something represents rather than what it actually is such as an expensive handbag is the reason why so many people are unhappy and depressed even though they may have “successful lives” with great monumental amounts of perceived success. Over the years on my journey I have developed a theoretical experiment which you can try to help you better understand what you truly want from life and how you can bring you emotional fulfillment to every aspect of your life. I would like to share it with you today and it will help you discover what truly makes you happy which will automatically lead to on your journey to living the life of your dreams. I call this the ‘prison world’ experiment and it will reveal more to you about what makes you truly happy than what meets the eye.
Firstly, I want you to imagine all the time in your life as all the fingers on your hand as 10 years each. Now look down at your hands, the first two fingers represent your education from kindergarten to possibly mid university, or what I like to call it our social conditioning training period, these 20 years are detestably where we are in the prime of our lives where we should be able to live and experience our lives to our own delight. However, this is also the time in your life where we have the least freedom and funds. Societal constructs have created a system where by the age of 20 you are already in copious amounts of educational debit forcing you right into the workforce without experiencing what truly makes you happy. Countries that don’t support the educational system including the countries that claim to be first world are setting people up for a lifetime of debt. Let me explain, once you have finished your studies the average amount of student debt for university, collage and partnerships CBNC reports the average debt at starting at USD$26,700 in 2018.
I would like you to forget the concept of linear time all together. Imagine yourself exactly as you are right at this exact second. At 9 am the tomorrow every single conscious living person and being on this planet will disappear except for you. No people, no animals and no insects. You are completely alone on this earth, don’t panic it’s not for forever. You have 10 years in this ‘prison world’ scenario where you can experience everything you may want to in life but alone. First let’s lay down some ground rules. When the decade is complete you will re-appear exactly where you are now, unharmed in the exact time, date and location with everyone including yourself the same age which you left off completely un-aged and physically unaltered. For the 10 years you cannot age, die or be physically harmed you will however have all your current needs and limitations. The world and people when you come back will be unaltered by your 10 years and have no memory of your absence. Now to some of you with may seem like a different kind of hell but to others it may seem like a certain kind of heaven and there is importance to your initial ‘gut reaction’ to this idea. Really feel what you think about this, are you excited or terrified and ask yourself the 'big' why?
It is 9am on the first day of your 10 years in the ‘prison world’. What is the first thing you do? Have some breakfast, pack your bags, find the fanciest car in the neighborhood and begin a road trip? Go to a big city and stay in the most luxurious buildings penthouse apartment with an infinity pool overlooking the skyline? Or maybe you may want to drive out to the countryside or simply stay home and walk among nature? To breath with no responsibilities or pressures of modern life. Remember that you are completely safe in this world, no one is there to hurt you, laugh at you trying new things, tell you what to do and you have no one to ‘make proud’ or impress. Really understand that this is a time where you can do ever single thing you may want to do in life that truly makes you happy. Its mid-afternoon now; what are you wearing and how are you styled? Something comfortable or did you put on a glamorous outfit from a boutique, everything is free you can get what ever you desire.
The more you practice this exercise you will begin to understand what sets your soul alight with intrigue and bliss. What makes you happy without the expectations of the world around you? Once you have found the little things that lights you up you can begin to focus on what you need to do in the real world to achieve your own happiness. Remember that what makes you happy may not necessarily be what makes your family or friends happy. Most importantly you need to be happy in your own life before you can make others happy. You are perfect as you are. Important as anyone else. Your unique desires are what makes you who you are.
With love,
Kim Crystal
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